Wednesday, April 26, 2006

How To Heal A Broken Heart

Submitted by a reader and I hope that you can progress well to recover.

I think "revenge" on a cheating husband will put you in a deeper trouble (emotional and spiritual). It will surely add more sadness and pain in you should you succumb to "revenge".

For me, crying and excercising are the best tonic for the healing process to start. When tears roll down, a psychologist said, it somehow reduces the pain and surely healing is there. Talking to the offender is one great tehcnique I did, I explained my feelings, tremors, sleepless nights, insecurities and sadness.

You know, when I was cheated by my husband, deep sadness came, as if someone died, as if I am grieving all day, but mind you it is part of the process. I am now on my 7th month of healing, I rate myself as # 3 if the highest or perfect score is a 10. Slowly but surely, with a lot of prayers and meditation.

Am praying for all of us.

Monday, April 24, 2006

Cheating Husband Story

My husband of almost 2 years, had an affair on me and as a result the other woman is pregnant. He revealed his infidelity the day after my 29th birtday, and has not been able to explain to me why he did this.

My husband left me last year 2 months before our 1 year anniversary, and we stayed apart for 6 or 7 months, the whole time, it was him saying he did not want to be married, that he was not as ready as he thought he was, and it was his fault because he pushed and pushed until we married. Even before the separation he was conducting himself in a way that was inappropriate for a married man, looking at internet pornography, chatting online late at night with other females, and even conversating with them on our house phone when I would go to bed.

Well just before Thanksgiving last year he decided, he loved me and wanted to be married, and he was ready to commit to me fully (only after I advised him I had spoke with a lawyer and a divore would cost in the low thousands). Anyways, long story short we reconciled and were working on restoring our marriage to what it originally should have been. Then as I stated above one day after my 29th birthday, he tells me he had an affair while we were separated, and this woman is pregnant (but he's gonna have a DNA test to make sure it is his).

There was nothing that I did not do for my husband, I cooked, cleaned, kept myself only unto him. I was a virgin when we married and I am so hurt now that I waited and married him and gave something so precious to a man how did not have enough respect for me to not cheat, no matter if we were separated or not. He will clearly say that it was nothing that I did, so finding out why he did this and discussing it....is not relevant, because he did it because he was selfish. Now he wants me to live with his mistake, and a child. We don't even have children together, how do you repair or save a marriage a 2nd time around.

His parents are just as upset about this, and cannot understand why he would do this. We have all asked do you want this marriage, and he simply says "yes" I think that he is afraid to say no, for fear of what God will do to him, for trespassing against his commandments, and for lying and using me and this other woman. I don't feel sorry for her, because if I can believe him, she knew he was married.

Anyways, I say that to say this...I don't know if a person can save a marriage if the other person has hurt them in this way. If they are like me they are thinking revenge! Something that would hurt the person who cheated so much....like sleeping with all of his/her co-workers, or getting pregnant with another mans child and pushing it off as his....REVENGE.

If you believe in God like I do, then you have to believe that you don't have to seek revenge, God will punish the wrong-doer much worst than you could, and you will still be righteous.

Submitted by Anonymous.

PS : I am not sure how I could help you but I am willing to get you a copy of http://SpotCheating.com ebook. Hope it can help you in some other manner.

Send me an email. Thanks for your submission.

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