Wednesday, December 21, 2005

Trend - Eye spy on spouses

MELBOURNE has been revealed as a hanky-panky hotspot as suspicious husbands and wives hire private detectives in record numbers to spy on their spouses.

Private eyes are being paid thousands of dollars a week to trail unsuspecting partners and catch them in secret trysts with their lovers.

Private detective and former policeman Steve Murray said infidelity was booming in Melbourne. There is a one-third increase in clients hiring him to out love cheats compared with previous years.

He said most of his agency's spy cases have confirmed clients' fears of a spouse's bedroom shenanigans with someone else's wife or husband.

One man spent $11,500 having his wife followed when she walked out on him. Investigators discovered she had a secret policeman lover.

"It's going on everywhere," Mr Murray said.

Another private detective, Charles Rahim, said his agency's infidelity cases have also jumped by at least a third this year. He said people were also queuing to have their partners take lie-detector tests to prove their fidelity. Up to 70 per cent of men failed the test.

"It's so big now, this cheating, it's unbelievable," he said.

Mr Murray said: "People are more aware of things -- they're able to check text messages on mobile phones.

"I don't think we're as stupid as we used to be."

Mr Murray, who specialises in infidelity cases, said three-quarters of those contacting private eyes were women. Most clients were aged 35 to 50. He said men were more likely to be cheating, but also were more likely to follow two-timing wives and girlfriends themselves.
He said Christmas was a danger time for cheating, as boozy office parties fuelled many illicit liaisons.

Mr Murray said deleting all voice or text messages from a mobile phone was a classic sign of cheating.

"You go to check your husband's phone and it's got no messages -- even the sweet ones that you've been sending him -- because he has to delete them all," he said.

"The other classic sign is when the phone rings and he goes into the other room to take the call or goes outside.

"It's telling you he doesn't want you to hear that phone conversation."

Other possible signs of an affair include moodiness, wanting more or less sex than usual at home, wanting to try new things, and accusing the other person of being paranoid.

Relationships Australia senior counsellor Rosalie Pattenden said infidelity affected one-third of couples. But she said television shows such as Desperate Housewives and Sex and the City were more likely to help people spot cheating spouses than encourage copy-cat affairs.

"People are being more informed of the warning signs. When they see it on television, it makes them think," she said.

"That's when they're more likely to hire a private detective."

Source : Herald Sun

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