Saturday, May 07, 2005

Cheating Wfe Stories - Jeniffer

Ten years ago, my marriage was on the rocks. We were living together for five years like brother and sister, there were no intimacies. We had drifted apart.

My husband was a nice guy, but I suppose we had married when we were to young, and we just grew apart. He was safe but boring. He was in a rut in his work and struggling financially. It made matters worse that I became more or less the breadwinner of the family.

But I was tired of doing things by myself. My husband didn't bother with me and we were living seperate lives. Things got worse after I had a miscarriage. My husband, being the typical Asian could not deal with it through talking he was like an ostrich who had just buried his head in the sand. Whereas I needed to talk to someone about the pain of losing a baby.

Then I met this man in Singapore. We began as friends. I guess I was looking for someone outside my marriage to listen to me, I was swept away by the attention, the nice dinners. Eventually I became quite infatuated with him and we had a short affair.

Initially, I felt I didn't want to get a divorce because of the children. After a while I reliased the situation couldn't go on; it was not fair to my husband. I wanted to protect the children but what's the point when they also know you are miserable ? So we eventually agreed on a divorce.

As for the affair, it was a short term, long distance thing and turned out to be a big mistake.

I know of quite a few married women in high society who have flings. They still look good and are relatively young, but they are married to men who play around with even younger women.

Since the husbands don't pay attention to them, they have flings out of boredom or revenge. Some of them keep it a secret from their husbads because they don't want to lose their financial security. Others use it to get their husbands' attention.

Monday, May 02, 2005

Be Thankful if you Have Faithful Husband

If your husband is faithful, you have much to be thankful for. Faithful husbands are in short supply. While 3 out of 4 wives assume their husbands are faithful, only 1 wife in 4 can truthfully make that claim. According to statistics, 3 out of 4 men cheat on their wives. 2/3 of those wives (approximately 26 million women) have no idea their husbands are having an affair - despite the presence of numerous telltale signs.

A Rude Awakening

Every year countless women who thought they had faithful husbands, are shocked when their husbands ask for a divorce or simply move in with another woman. Others are dumbfounded to discover from empty bank accounts that family funds were used to finance an extramarital affair. Still others are astonished to learn that they’ve contracted a sexually transmitted disease.

Why the Wife is the Last to Know

Why is it that the wife is always the last to know? Could all these women be in denial? How could a wife not know her husband is having an affair? If a wife has no reason to suspect her husband it’s easy to miss or misinterpret the warning signs. Especially if she’s unfamiliar with the 21 categories of telltale signs.

Reasons to be Thankful

Not every married man is a cheating husband, though the overwhelming majority of them are. Nevertheless, there are still many faithful husbands around. If you’re married to one, you have a lot to be thankful for.

•You can be thankful that your marriage and family are intact.
•You can be thankful you don’t have to agonize over the decision of whether to leave your husband or stay with him and try to get your marriage back on track.
•You can be thankful the years you’ve invested in your marriage have not been in vain.
•You can be thankful that you don’t have to deal with the devastation and the emotional trauma that infidelity brings.

Make Sure You’re Not An Unsuspecting Wife

Given the rising rate of infidelity, you owe it to yourself and your marriage to make sure you’re not one of those 26 million unsuspecting wives. But how can you be sure your husband isn’t having an affair? By familiarizing yourself with the early warning signs. For details on the 21 categories of telltale signs visit

Your Marriage May Depend on It

The future of your marriage may one day depend on your ability to spot the warning signs of infidelity. There are numerous things you can do to save your marriage if you spot the telltale signs in time. But if your marriage turns out to be unsalvageable, you can still take steps to protect yourself legally, financially and sexually. You can also prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for the devastation that lies ahead. At least you won’t be taken by surprise. But the first step to solving a problem is knowing the problem exists. If a wife has no idea her husband is cheating, by the time she finds out, it may be too late.

So if your husband is faithful, be thankful. Faithful husbands are few and far between. If you’re not sure, be thankful you happened upon this article. Make it your business to find out where you stand before it’s too late. You’ll be thankful you did.

© 2003 Ruth Houston

RUTH HOUSTON is the author of “Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs.” Visit her website for detailed information on the 21 categories of telltale signs.

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