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Have a husband who travels 7 mths of the year, works for a MLB team. Ended up having a co worker who he exchanged "I love you's" with. I had my suspicions for months, but knew I needed the proof. Got it, he has moved out, claiming they never had sex, even though he flew her into cities the team visited and went to see her during the holidays.
All parties are married with young children. My husband and I are separated, think he is also going through mid life crisis, couldn't handle health issues I had, he is an awesome communicator with everyone except me. Needs his "friend" because she is the only one he can talk to. He is trying to decide if he wants to stay in decade term marriage, I think I want out, tired of being lonely and how would I ever trust him on the road again. The "just friends" crap is unbelieveable.
Is he just not coming clean on that in the off chance he is trying to keep me on the ropes in case he decides he wants to work it out? Which at this point, I don't. Also he doesn't get why it is detrimental to working on our relationship if he remains friends with her!!!??
Far as I am concerned, she can have him. Also think he won't come clean because he is afraid of the financial fallout from a divorce.
Has anyone's marriage ever survived this type of situation? Also work is far more important than his family.
Can't see how this can have a good outcome.
Thoughts from anyone?
Let me share it with you.
Have a husband who travels 7 mths of the year, works for a MLB team. Ended up having a co worker who he exchanged "I love you's" with. I had my suspicions for months, but knew I needed the proof. Got it, he has moved out, claiming they never had sex, even though he flew her into cities the team visited and went to see her during the holidays.
All parties are married with young children. My husband and I are separated, think he is also going through mid life crisis, couldn't handle health issues I had, he is an awesome communicator with everyone except me. Needs his "friend" because she is the only one he can talk to. He is trying to decide if he wants to stay in decade term marriage, I think I want out, tired of being lonely and how would I ever trust him on the road again. The "just friends" crap is unbelieveable.
Is he just not coming clean on that in the off chance he is trying to keep me on the ropes in case he decides he wants to work it out? Which at this point, I don't. Also he doesn't get why it is detrimental to working on our relationship if he remains friends with her!!!??
Far as I am concerned, she can have him. Also think he won't come clean because he is afraid of the financial fallout from a divorce.
Has anyone's marriage ever survived this type of situation? Also work is far more important than his family.
Can't see how this can have a good outcome.
Thoughts from anyone?
posted by CupidNVenus at 3:26 PM
5 Comments:
since your husband is " so buzy" with his work none of his relationships wil survive ( no matter how many lovers he will have)... So are you worried about his new lover or about the marriage?
mine also claims to have forgone the physical affair. just an emotional one and that is supposed to be acceptable? he lied about it and then said he was sorry. now he is angry at me b/c 2 years later i still question his faithfullness.
Just friends is a bunch of crap if you ask me. I have male friends but they never took the place of my mate. What some men (trying to avoid generalizations here) seem to be unable to undserstand is that the are giving this female "friend" the attention and affection that they should be giving you. I have no problem with my man having female friends so long as I am still getting what I need from him. If I'm not- then if definitely feels like he is cheating even if it is not in the physical sense.
My bf of 7 years had a 2 mo. fling w/ a chick who travelled in the same group of friends...
He tried pulling that friend crap..
It still continues to be an issue and it's an ongoing process of healing and so on and so forth..
And,no she hasn't remained a friend.
Your husband sounds stubborn and/or selfish, and plain out ballsy to even have you entertain the idea that he will remain friends w/ coworker.
You are his wife, that's who he needs to talk to...
I always like to see how cheaters would react if the cheated turned around and had an affair..
Something to think about.
Good Luck
i have had a affair with a married mlb player..even though i know that it was selfish on his part¬ fair to his wife his kids nor me..i see how easy it can happen.there our so many temptations while on the road.our affair had nothing to do with his wife he was happy with his family,i guess i just filled the void that she couldnt from home.he really just needed a friend.
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